Monday 1 December 2014

Stop the Abuse!!!

Photo courtesy Humanity against Local Violence


A really serious and sensitive issue that plagues societies worldwide is Domestic Violence. This type of behaviour does not discriminate in relation to gender. Both males and females suffer abuse in their relationships for varying reasons; may it be jealousy, drunkenness or a controlling and insecure partner.

In  attempting to voice our opinion on domestic violence, Camille Hunte (blogger of Steups) and I decided to to an advertisement on ending domestic violence.


Fairy Tale vs Reality

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I do not consider myself to be a poet but I particularly enjoyed producing this piece with my colleague...another blogger; Yolanda Pesnell. As we grow up and sometimes as adults we confuse fiction with reality.

We were taught about "Happily Ever After" since we were babes; and we grew up thinking that every relationship is perfect... then when we entered a relationship of our own and we were faced with the horrible truth. The poem below was written by Yolanda and myself; discussing fairy tales and the harsh realities of life. 

Hope you enjoy it!!!
Fairy Tale vs Fiction
Fairytale vs Fiction
Joyous giggles floats through the trees
Just before a calming silence proceeds
Signalling little princesses’ glee filled in dazes
Reminiscing Grim’s fantastical phases

Later they enter
Andersen’s sensitivity centre
“The Princess on the Pea”
Teaches of the likeness of a princess to be

Imagination removed
“Disney” exposes
The fair flawless beauty
the girls the princes chooses

Common threads entwined
To gender roles and kindness
a princess must incline
it is not the Shrew
but the Damsel in distress
who will prevail
In finding her happily ever after mate

As little children we learnt of many fairytale stories
Sleeping Beauty, Cinderella and Snow White
Are just a few that continuously pervade our memories
As youngsters we anxiously awaited the time we will become adults
Just so we can meet our princes, princesses and even dance the waltz

But our innocence was shattered as we grew into adults
When we realized that reality is not what a fairytale story is all about
Happily ever after only happens in fairytale books and movies
Oh why…Oh why didn’t anyone warn me?

I never knew relationships demanded hard work
Communication, trust and compromise can prevent a lot of hurt
I thought a kiss on the lips and the demise of the wicked queen
Was all that a relationship needs

We never hear of infidelity, abuse or dishonesty in fairytales
So why should anyone blame me when as an adult I begin to wail?
Nothing is wrong with trying to maintain our children’s innocence in the days of their youths
But as parents we should always strive to balance fiction with the truth

It's A Man's World...Part 2

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Well we're back with another episode of "It's a Man's World". This time however, Roneil and I traversed the hall of COSTAATT to get the opinions of both males and females.

This is what they had to say...


It's A Man's World...Part 1

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A question that always bothered me is..."Why do men prefer to watch sports (whether it be football, basketball, cricket etc.) with their male buddies rather than with their girlfriends or wives?

I posed this question to my colleague Roneil Walcott, who has a blog based on sports; Ron's Sports Short.We collaborated on the question at hand...Check out what he had to say.... You will be amazed!!


Enjoyed the discussion?? Don't miss Part 2 where we will be getting the opinions from persons on the street!!

Doh Whine On Mih Man...Part 2

Photo courtesy Sam Rkaina
So after deliberating and sharing our views, Candace and I decided to hit the streets and get the opinions from members of the public.

Check out the video below....


Doh Whine On Mih Man Part 1

Photo courtesy Sam Rkaina
Trinidad and Tobago Carnival 2015 is fast approaching and with it comes the 'whine and jam' session. For this collaboration, I teamed up with my colleague; Candace Porter whose blog takes us on a journey on preparing for Carnival ('Diary of a Masquerader).

This blog post is part one of a two part video blog that brings to the forefront the issue of couples attending Carnival fetes together and whether or not it is a problem if their significant other dances with someone else while they are present.

Check out the video below...


Saturday 29 November 2014

Keeping It Real

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A lot of relationships end because of the lack of communication. Persons are either afraid or too proud to ask questions or to tell their partner how they feel.

The picture below was taken from Pinterest...it shares great advice on how to Keep It Real in your relationship!!


What Happens In The Dark ALWAYS Comes To Light!!!

Photo courtesy Josette
It may be an ongoing affair or it may be just a one night stand...However, many persons involved in a committed relationship believe that their partner would never find out what they did. Whether you believe this to be true...REMEMBER...What Happens in the dark ALWAYS comes to light.... SOMEDAY!!!

Check out this very interesting video from YouTube...It is a clear depiction of what happens when a person gets caught in their lies...


Sunday 23 November 2014

Turning Your Mood Into Music!!!

Photo courtesy Frank Fitzpatrick
Here's another collaborative blog post done by another classmate; Yolanda Pesnell and myself. Yolanda's blog caters towards literature; so we decided to put songs to various issues that couples go through. We both came up with ten issues that couple face in a relationship, then we looked for songs on youtube and matched them to each problem.

The experience I had doing this video blog was an exciting albeit tiring one. I can surely say that I have learnt a number of new songs...Thank you Yolanda!!!!

Here are some issues couples face and popular songs that potray them....

1. Lack of Communication .... 


     Mad - Neyo


2. Controlling/Manipulative...

Listen - Beyonce'


3. Money

Love Don't Cost A Thing - Jennifer Lopez


4. Betrayal

 Grenade - Bruno Mars


5. Infidelity

Bust Your Windows - Jazmine Sullivan


6. Jealousy/Insecurity

Spotlight - Jennifer Hudson


7. Distrust

Trust - Keyshia Cole ft. Monica



Having these issues but want to continue trying?? 

Overcome Your Obstacles

Stay With You - John Legend



Think There's You've Reached Your Limit??

Move On

Lose To Win - Fantasia


Saturday 22 November 2014

Getting Fit Fuh De Road!!

The following video has nothing to do with relationships, as what this blog is centered on. However, as a collaborative effort among three other bloggers, we were required to produce a blog incorporating the various issues our blogs were about.

This video blog stars Lisa Hernandez; blogger of Fun, Healthy Foodie, Candace Porter; blogger of Diary of a Masquerader and Patrick Dyer; blogger of Getting Healthy with Patrick.

I had lots of fun collaborating with these outstanding bloggers on helpful healthy tips one can use in preparing for Carnival 2015. I must say that it was exciting videotaping and thereafter editing the video, and producing it into what it is now.

So take a look at Getting Fit Fuh De Road.... Hope you Enjoyyyyyyy!!!





Men are From Mars...Women are from Venus

We always hear the term, 'Men are from Mars...Women are from Venus'. A lot of men claim that women are difficult to understand and that they are the most complicated beings on earth. I must confess that we as females give mixed answers/emotions at times but when you get to truly know us, we can be be the most loving, funny and caring persons you've ever met.

The video below, although a bit funny, truly depicts the antics of women on a day to day basis. Tell me what you think...


Sunday 9 November 2014

Spicing It Up!!!

Photo Courtesy Kimberly S. Brown
Sometimes in relationships, we get complacent and things begin to get really, really boring. Your significant other or even you may feel that the spark that was there at the beginning of your relationship has gone and that your relationship has run its course. If you truly love your partner, you can achieve that spark again...that tingling feeling you get when he/she walks into the room.

Below is a 30 day challenge that I found on Pinterest that will guarantee the return of the spiciness in your relationship.

Photo Courtesy Taylor Schoen

He loves me...He loves me not...

Photo Courtesy Glampyre

Sometimes we are confused as to what love truly is. We may feel at times that we are in love with a person when in fact it may be infatuation or lust.

I was surfing through some really great pictures on Pinterest, and one picture really caught my attention. It clearly depicts the true meaning of love. I would say no more, because the picture speaks for itself...

Photo Courtesy Harleena Singh

Sunday 19 October 2014

The Truth About Jack and Jill

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When we were kids, our parents, grandparents, uncles, aunts and teachers...all told us the story about Jack and Jill. We all may have wondered at some time or the other, "Was Jack and Jill siblings? What caused them to fall? Anywayzzzz...wonder no more. Here's the true story about Jack and Jill....

Tim the bucket, as he was fondly called by his other bucket friends sat outside one cold, bleak night; shivering from the intense draft that overcame him. The freezing water that lay inside him did not help the situation either. As Tim sat unmoving outside the kitchen door, he could hear loud noises coming from inside the house. 
Photo courtesy Andrew @ unleashthewriterblogspot.com

"Jack and Jill are back at it again." Tim whispered to his friend Fred the tub.
"What are they arguing about now?" Fred asked.
Tim the bucket had been with Jack and Jill from the time they said their I dos. He was given to them by a relative as a wedding gift, and five years later, a little battered and worn, he was still with them.

"Jill is furious at Jack for reaching home late again." Tim answered.  "I think Jack is having an affair with Little Miss Muffet. Ever since Jack saved her from that big, hairy spider, they have been spending a lot of time together." Tim added.

"How do you know that?" Fred the tub asked. 
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"Mary's little lamb told me." Tim replied. "He told me that one day after the principal caught him under Mary's desk and chased him off the school's compound, he decided to pass through a short cut and caught them together in the bushes. 

"You've got to be kidding me!!" Fred exclaimed, startled by Tim's revelation.
"No I'm not." Tim replied, hurt that Fred thought he would make up a tale like that. "Humpty Dumpty saw them too. 

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He was perched on a nearby wall and saw the entire scene. Apparently Miss Muffet's underwear got caught in a picker tree and she couldn't get it untangled. Humpty Dumpty found it to be so funny that he started laughing really hard, lost his balance, fell off the wall and broke a few ribs, his right arm and legs.

Tim and Fred began laughing uncontrollably but stopped immediately as the kitchen door swung open.
"Jill I'm not going to warn you again. Leave Miss Muffet alone. She and I have nothing." Jack barked.
"You all have nothing? Let me see what that heifer has to say for herself." Jill answered.

Jill grabbed Tim the bucket from where he sat and began walking briskly towards the hill where Miss Muffet lived.
"Where are you going with the bucket Jill?" Jack shouted, closing in on Jill who was walking as fast as she could.
"To throw some freezing water in Miss Muffet's face." Jill shouted back.
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As Jill reached the top of the hill, Jack reached for her, grabbing her arm. 
"Let me go Jack." Jack continued holding Jill and she swung Tim the bucket at Jack, hitting him in the head. Jack yelped in pain, lost his balance and fell; tumbling down the hill. 

Jill who was shocked at what she had done, began running down the hill behing Jack's tumbling body. She gave no thought to the stones that lay on the crooked ground, and she too lost her footing and began rolling down the hill also. 

Photo courtesy ClipArt Etc
Pretty soon, Tim the bucket who witnessed it all was laying at the bottom of the hill where both Jack and Jill laid; still and unmoving....eyes bleak and unseeing.

This story that I have written may be a  tale but there are issues within it that couples face throughout their relationships. Distrust is the main factor rearing its ugly head within the story. We all know that without trust as a solid foundation in a relationship, that union would never last. However, I do not want to talk about trust or the lack of it in this blog...We'll talk about it in a subsequent blog post.

My questions to you guys are, "Can a male or female have a platonic friendship with someone of the opposite sex? Where does one draw the line in relation to that friendship? What if your significant other has a problem with the closeness of the friendship, should you cease being friends with that person?

You Get On My Damn Nerves!!!!

Photo courtesy Rob Woodman
While rummaging through YouTube, I came across this video. I am sure that everyone who has been or is in a relationship can attest to having had the same arguments that the couple in the video portray.

While looking at the video, I found the arguments to be petty and hilarious. But... when placed in the exact, real life situation, there's nothing funny about the issues at all...Not one bit. 

I have had to deal with a few of them myself. Take it from me... the arguments were not pretty. The leaving up of the toilet seat saga (I think every couple goes through this phase), the leaving of  wet towels and toothpicks on the bed gets me maaaadddd!! 

Watch and listen to what this couple argues about....


Come on guys, tell me what you think about the video. Have you been in similar situations? Do these issues get you mad?? Be honest now!!!

Thursday 16 October 2014

Learning to Love

Photo courtesy Jamie Elkon

Hey peeps. In this blog post, we'll be dealing with a big issue that a number of persons encounter at some point in their life. A classmate and I were having a discussion about one of our favourite television shows when this topic came to the forefront. Before I mention to you what it is all about, I will mention the television series that was being discussed...

Monday 22 September 2014

Introduction

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Hey guys and gals.... Welcome to my blog 'Matters of the Heart'. As an assignment for a course I am presently pursuing 'Communication via Social Networking', I have been mandated to create a blog of my choice, thus enabling me to connect with persons via various social media networks.

I was absolutely unaware of what topic to blog about but with suggestions from my friends, I decided to base my assignment on relationships and the various issues that persons encounter in an amorous situation.

This blog promises to be interactive, entertaining and educational as we enter the world of love, bliss, relationships and even the 'dog house'.

You are free to leave comments,share your views, personal stories and videos as we make this blog not just mine but ours.